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Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Love, the leveler


Last month in the confines of a dentist's waiting room, me and two strangers failed at small talk and then went on and tried to make sense of each others’ lives, and could not.  But in came the topic of love and we strangely found ourselves on familiar ground.  We talked for long minutes and when we left, strangers we still be, but with a little less of the strangeness - we found that we all had loved, knew of its lore and lived through its leaps and lows. 

Love has an uncanny ability to do that – it pushes people up, many a times pulls them down and sometimes sweeps them off their feet; but love, for the most of times, bring us all to size – it grounds us.  And quite arguably, love is the world’s greatest leveler.  Almost every soul wounded by Cupid’s shot stand united in their inability to describe that crazy feeling called love and once loved, one will realize that none are the better in the ways of this fine foolish feeling. 

Different people from different worlds have different views on life. But the topic of love is often common ground and they strangers no longer are.  A hot shot banker will find little to relate to with a great teacher; or a young techie will have little to discuss with a veteran doctor; and a rookie student may not be able to connect with a famous foodie; but bring in the topic of love and they will all have something, and a little bit more, to stoke the cauldron of conversation, camaraderie and connection.  Almost everyone gets instantly unified with their experimentations, explorations and experiences with love. 

But how a person responds to the feeling is her love story, and that is unique.  While some get empowered, some fall down.  Some get scarred while some are in smiles.  Some lose it, some win it and some just do nothing.  Some show it, some hide it, some express it and some simply don’t.  Some spend years without it, some spend years for it, some fight for it and some just fall into it.  And that makes their love story.  But while love stories are unique, love is not.  This heady feeling of the heart makes no distinction and treats everyone equally with its misfortunes.  It happens to everyone.  In spite of aptitude, attitude or anomaly.  In spite of creed, community or country.  In spite of vanity, worth or vintage. 

And once loved, we no longer be virgins to its virtues, wickedness and vices – the stolen glances, the feverish touches, the longing, the yearning, the warmth, the comfort, the sweet nothings, the silly pillow talk, the smell of the hug, the fear of loss and the joy of giving, the fights, the making up and making out, the broken pride, the lovely losing, the companionship, the exhilaration … we all know what they are. 

Love, the leveler, truly unites us all.



31 comments:

  1. "While some get empowered, some fall down. Some get scarred while some are in smiles. Some lose it, some win it and some just do nothing. Some show it, some hide it, some express it and some simply don’t. Some spend years without it, some spend years for it, some fight for it and some just fall into it. And that makes their love story. But while love stories are unique, love is not".
    I liked the above paragraph.. no matter how love treats us, we will never fail to fall in love or love the fact that love is all around us..
    Like i always say to myself "I love being in Love itself no matter what, coz it doesnt cheat me"... short but feel good reading...
    Happy "V" Day!!!

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    1. Glad u liked it soulsearcher!

      Wow thts a very powerful line... "I love being in Love itself no matter what, coz it doesnt cheat me".. really liked it.

      Great to see u here soul searcher.. hope u hv a good one too, my friend :)

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  2. Well said Raj. As they say, love has no language and is unique for different people. People respond differently when "love" is the topic of discussion.. In the long run, love indeed is a great leveler.. By the way, it's somewhat ironic that you wrote this post when your blog's title is fu-ck-lo-ve :D Kidding da! Happy Valentines day! :)

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    1. Aliya, nice to see u here man .. glad u agree man :)

      Hahaha.. i knw.. I cn see the irony :)

      Happy V Day to u too man :)

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  3. Well we have to agree Raj being in love is a feeling that is very pure and truthful to yourself. its very honest to you as it allows you to feel it and feel it all through..
    I'm Uma by the way.
    have fun in 2013.

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    1. Nice to meet u Uma... yup, I agree with u on that - that's y me loved ur line (btw, when I say 'I love tht line', it means 'I'll shamelessly pilfer it n put it on fb passing it off as mine' :D)

      Happy V Day Uma.. hope u hv a great one :)

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  4. Like they say Misery loves company, so you can talk and talk about it :P

    Kidding! By now you know how much love means to me. It shall always be the best conversation starter.

    Good one Chets!! :)

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    1. Chechs! :)

      Oh, I knw what u mean... u cud write a volume of books on this topic.. I really wish n pray tht u hv many more valentines in a row :)

      Great to see u here Somz n hv a blast of a day today:)

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  5. Love is an awesome emotion and you captured its many moods beautifully. Romantic love is a high that everyone deserves to experiece. Happy Valentine's Day!

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    1. Thanks so much fr ur kind words Rachna.. yup, yup.. its one total 'high'!

      Happy Valentine's Day to u too Rachna! :)

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  6. Love is an awesome emotion and you captured its many moods beautifully. Romantic love is a high that everyone deserves to experiece. Happy Valentine's Day!

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  7. Love is an awesome emotion and you captured its many moods beautifully. Romantic love is a high that everyone deserves to experiece. Happy Valentine's Day!

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    1. :)

      (yes, I keep doing this to increase the comments count! :D)

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  8. Nice post, much has been written, much more will be written but love can still not be adequately defined.

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    1. Hey Clement! Welcome to my blog my friend :)

      u nailed it yaar.. in spite of the tons of material on this, its very unlikely anybody cn still define it :)

      Do drop by more often my friend :)

      Happy Valentine's Day!

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  9. Love is definitely a great leveller. It makes the world go around and you have beautifully captured it's different hues.
    Happy Vaelntine's Day, Raj.

    Joy always,
    Susan

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    1. Hi Susan, great to see u here.. must say, u doing a great job with CBC.. thx fr dropping by Susan n welcome to my blog!

      Thnx so much fr ur kind words Susan :)

      Happy Valentine's Day!

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  10. Love.. :) I love being in love, and feeling loved. The hard bit is loving someone.. I think once that's given to someone worth their grain, it's rainbows and butterflies.. he he most of the time anyways! Happy Valentines!

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    1. Ah, yes, Valentine's Day.. from the greek work that means 'buy her a gift more expensive than last year... or else no dinner today'... :)

      Haha, nice view there Saro... I agree :)

      Thanks Saro.. hope u had a great one urself :)

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  11. hmmmmm......... not much tongue in cheek, a philisophical approach to a four letter word..... whassup buddy? ;-)

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  12. It is so strange right? How an emotion can let two random people connect with each other so well.you might be meeting that person for the first time..but somehow..a bond is forged, even it is for a matter of a few minutes or moments.That is unbelievable power of love.That is why..hate is just the absence of love and not the presence of hate.
    Belated Happy Valentine's day to you mate!
    hope you had a great one with your better half :)

    Cheers!

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    1. Hahaha.. Reshma, I quite meant it considering I have/had/keep having the same predicament :)

      Glad to see u here Reshma.. great to see ur quotes.. do drop by more often :)

      Welcome to my blog Reshma.. very nice to see u here :)

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  14. Love, the leveler, truly unites us all.

    Not very sure, I agree with love being a leveler :)

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    1. Hey Ramakant, welcome to my blog my friend :)

      Hahaha, glad to welcome ur point of view too.. I guess its in that leveling that people get united maybe :)

      But then again, I could be wrong too... as I famously am most of the times :)

      Do drop by more often my friend :)

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  15. 'Different people from different worlds have different views on life. But the topic of love is often common ground and they strangers no longer are.' Which is why my mixed marriage works perfectly ;) (In spite of what others may think....)

    How's life R-A-J? Hope you're doing fine!

    RC

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    1. Nice thought RC.. I'll tell my wife that too.. am sure she'd agree :)

      Thanks for asking RC.. I'm going thru mid life crisis and I'm not even mid life yet.. but things r real busy at the office :)

      Hope things r great at ur end my friend :)

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    1. Welcome to my blog doc.. thanks very much for ur support .. do visit more often sir :)

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